At work
You know what broke last time and you do not walk into it twice.
What it costs
Places that need the older version of you, and explaining a slower pace you chose on purpose.
How you notice it early
You catch yourself apologising for how you work now.
One thing
Before you take on anything new this week, write down the one thing you are not going back to.
If you want to show someone
Take the new pace at face value. It is not a phase they are getting over.
With the people closest to you
You can say what changed, which most people never manage.
What it costs
People relating to the version of you they met, and the work of correcting it.
How you notice it early
You are being handled the way you needed two years ago.
One thing
Tonight, tell one person one thing that is different now.
If you want to show someone
Update the picture. They have already done the work you remember them needing.
The other seven
Written for you to read about yourself, not for anyone deciding about you. It describes what tends to cost and what tends to feed — it is not a diagnosis, a test, or a medical opinion, and it does not tell you what work to take or who to be with.